The Game of Ten was originally designed as a clever way to get a group shy college lads dates with women. Today it is the secret to every success I have across the entire spectrum of life. Financial, health, career, interpersonal, etc. Each sector of your life can be made better by playing the Game of Ten.


Like I said, the Game of Ten has, perhaps, a seedy and sordid past. Years ago I was at a party choc-full of beautiful women. Gorgeous women. Only one thing was wrong – a few hours had gone by and I didn’t have the courage to talk to any one of them.

A friend noticed my dilemma and issued a challenge. “Go talk to 10 new women tonight. One of them will give you their number.” Sensing some hesitation he added “This is the Game of Ten. No man has ever been at a party like this and lost at the Game of Ten. Don’t worry, you’ll be fine.”

As it turns out, I was less afraid of talking to beautiful women than I was of looking like a pansy in the eyes of my friends and I played. I played despite harboring real, deeply felt suspicions that I might be the first man, ever, to loose at the Game of Ten.

That night I met ten women. I met more than ten as each of the ten had friends. Some of the ten wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. Some of the ten were pleasant and fun to speak with but were not going to give me their number. But some of the ten did! And at the end of the night achieved several important things:

Results of My First Game of 10

  • Met some interesting people.
  • Gained a few friends. 
  • A few phone numbers, and later dates, with very pretty ladies.
  • I had a great time and lived a story I will remember always.
  • Earned the admiration of my friends.
  • Built my own self respect.
  • Learned first hand that action leads to results and procrastination leads to nothing.

Further Applications of the Game of Ten

I went on to apply the Game of Ten to other areas of my life. When the career fair came, I made it a point to meet 10 recruiters and exchange my resume for a business card. When it came time to leave college and start work, I made sure that I had ten job offers to select from. When I moved to go to work, I checked 10 apartments before deciding where to live.

And the list goes on.

Are You Ready?

Would the Game of Ten help you out? Write down one thing that is bothering you right now. Now list ten things you can do about it.


Feeling passed over at work? Make a list of 10 things you can do right now to help get noticed. Maybe there are people you need to meet, people you need to know better, systems or concepts you need to learn. Don’t worry about what you’re writing, just write it down. Now go out and do them!

Upset about your weight? What are 10 things you can do immediately to get in better shape? 10 exercises, 10 healthful dishes, 10 lifestyle changes.

Not meeting Mr. / Ms. Right? List ten qualities you want in a relationship. Now think of 10 places those people hang out. Did you list height? Try sports clubs (triathlons, volleyball, basketball come to mind.) Did you list education? Think alumni club. Compassion? Think volunteer work.

 The Game of Ten is infinitely extensible. Try it. It worked for me, it will work for you. Now, if you will excuse me, I have a list of 10 things I need to do!

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